Here are some of the harsh realities that I learnt about this world as a once upon a time naive girl.
The Most Successful Projects Are The Ones Done In Secret
The more you tell people about what you are doing or going to do the more they’re likely to sabotage you.
People can sabotage you by
- Stealing your idea and making it their own
- Discouraging you from your idea
- Blocking the path for you through ruining your reputation so that nobody supports you.
- Jealousy is also a form of sabotage whereby somebody gives you this negative energy.
If you have been around negative energy before you obviously know about the discomfort.Move in silence remember a friend can easily turn into an enemy,you should only reveal projects when they are done.
If you must reveal them before completion do not reveal much or the crucial information that can sabotage the entire project.
A friend To All Is A Friend To None (that’s the harsh reality)
A person who is friends with everyone is someone who befriends everybody for beneficial purposes.This person does not have your back ,they are only loyal to themselves,they look out for number one which is them.
This type of a person puts people in different boxes depending on which of their needs you meet and they easily dispose people and move onto the next. How you know you have met such a person?
Trust your gut and observe them you will know the type of a person they are.
If they are users drop them,the worst that can happen, its them getting angry that they never benefited from you but that’s better than having a friend who is using you.I know its a harsh reality right?
You Always Have Enemies
You can be the most disciplined,peaceful,loner on earth but the harsh reality is you still have enemies.Enemies may originate from
- Hating how you look
- The job you do
- An assumption they have about you
- Being a look alike of someone they hate
- Socializing with people they hate
- Having a life they wish they had
- Hating you because others do.
As you exist in this world always bear in mind you have enemies and be on the look out for them and in case you are wondering how do you identify this silent enemies?Here are things you can look out for in people
- They constantly ask questions about your life just to know what you are up to.
- They always look at you to purposely see what’s up with you in a way that’s not genuine.
- They always look suspicious around you
- They gossip about you
- They are always angry when you talk to them and you can’t seem to pinpoint the cause of their anger
- They intentionally offer bad services to you.
To my superstitious readers the person in question might have a habit of giving you things for free randomly or borrow your stuff.These two can be used to bewitch you,this is a very harsh reality because why go to an extent of bewitching someone?
The silent enemy is the most dangerous type of an enemy,always beware and trust what your gut tells you
The Focus Is Not Always On You
You can be everything that is good but not every time people are focused on what you do or who you are,harsh reality it is.
You may want attention but you’ve got to understand people have other things to focus on like bills,their health,other people ,new trends etc.Stop getting mad when you do not get the attention you need instead pay attention to yourself there is so much you will notice from within.
For example what changes or improvements you need to make in your life.
People’s attention is like a light touch on your shoulder while paying attention on yourself is like getting the i got you hug.
Going After Someone Who Ghosted You Lowers Your Dignity
Nothing screams desperation like going after someone who ghosted you,I know sometimes we want closure but its not worth it.
It’s not going to change the fact that they ghosted you.If you wake up one day and find that they are not talking to you anymore let it stay that way.
Being Nice Won’t Get You Anywhere
Being beautiful/handsome gets you to places and complements,Being hardworking gets you promoted ,being honest gains you trust.What does being nice get you?it makes you get used.
If I know somebody who always says yes to me whenever i need something I will always reach out to them to get those favors done and that is how I end up using them for being nice.Its a harsh reality but its the truth.
You can read this article Being Too Nice Will Be Your Own Undoing
People will not respect you for being nice infact they will bully you because you can’t stand up for yourself.I know bullies never stop being bullies but you should always let them know you do not tolerate them.
We have seen so many public figures out there act nice,but did you know that it is just for show to get the fans to love them?In person they are not as nice as they portray themselves to be, otherwise if they were that nice they wouldn’t have made it to the top.
Nothing Is For Free In This World
When a person does something for you they expect something in return in the form of money or materialistic things that is something that most people don’t talk about.
Do not accept favors without asking what they want in return because later on you might be asked for something you can’t afford.
Be vigilante with the type of favors you ask for and the type of people you ask favors from.Some favors will land you into trouble especially if a person uses the favor to set you up.
Lack of Trust Saves You
I have heard a million times the phrase ‘its okay to trust’ and every time somebody says out loud that I do not trust people they get harsh judgment and everyone around them thinks something is wrong with them.
Do not trust anyone at least not completely leave some room for doubt.
Human beings keep on changing, this year you can trust them,but next year when they re-invent themselves they may be no longer trustworthy so what happens if you keep on holding on to the trust that you put on them when you first met them?
The world is also changing as I write this article there is inflation in food prices happening.People are making changes so that they can adapt and some of these changes involve doing horrifying things that are putting others in danger so do we still hold onto trusting them like we did before?
What I mean is this when you don’t trust people completely you are able to detect from a far when they are untrustworthy this enables you to make adjustments easily.
This reminds me of a time when love had disappointed my friends and I so we decided the next time we fall in love we shall leave one leg out of the door.
Do not trust or if you do leave one leg out of the door.
Social Media Followers Are Not Your Friends
Just because somebody shows you some love on social media by either following, liking or commenting on your content it does not mean they will obviously come through for you when you need them.
Ask for help on social media if you want to, bearing in mind that those are just strangers who are following you.They may or may not help you and that is why having many followers should not blind you into abandoning your old loyal friends.
Do not also get surprised if they turn against you one day and begin trolling you,I mean this is something you should have been prepared for long time ago because they are not your friends but just followers.
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