By Charity Mwengi
Disclaimer :
Ghosting is when somebody suddenly disappears on you without saying anything not even a goodbye. i know at times we blame ourselves for being ghosted.
Today i’m here to tell you this the ghoster is the one with the issues, because if you do not want someone in your life as a friend ,sister, lover ectera,you should just tell them.
Mostly ghosting is associated with someone being a coward , having a low self esteem , a low self worth and manipulation. There are times when ghosting is valid especially if this person is a threat to your well being. But today i’m going to talk about when ghosting is a game that a man plays on you, so take a seat and lets begin.
Sign 1.
They only seem to just want the sex talk
Listen girl as interesting as the sex talks are that can’t be the only thing you talk about there is so much to talk about in relationships for example how long will you be dating before getting married?,do the two of you want marriage?will you move in together? how is the communication between the two of you?and so on but if all he ever seems to want to talk about is sex that could be what is keeping him around and once he has it, he’s gone.
Sign 2
Future plans
If your man talks about his future just mentioning himself i think you might want to rethink what you have going on ,but then a man can also include you in his verbal future plans as a manipulative tactic to get what he wants.It’s up to you to figure out if its deception or not .
Sign 3
Previous ghostee
That time of the day when you are having a conversation with your man as you lie on his laps and he’s telling you how he was once a bad boy who ghosted women before you and you can’t help but feel lucky that he is reformed,there is a high probability that one day he is going to ghost you (people do change but just find out if he did)
Sign 4
You know he will ghost you
Have you ever had this feeling that someone is going to ghost you?then he is going to ghost you.You are just in denial or ignorant to that tingle, and i know most of the times you want to ask just to confirm ,but ask yourself this which manipulative person will admit that they are planning to ghost you?girl i have been there asked, stayed then got ghosted but now all we can say is RIP to that girl i used to be.
Sign 5
They do not want to get to know you
Getting to know someone is part of the attachment process ,so they avoid getting to know much about you because they know they are neither planning to be there for a long time nor planning to get attached.
How to get over being ghosted (2ways)
Accept it has happened
If they do not want you there is nothing you can do to make them want you ,if you decide to start ghosting people in return they will be no satisfaction that you will get from that.The emptiness will keep on been there.
If you decide to stalk them you will only end up suffocating yourself with daily doses of jealousy because you will be witnessing their life move on swiftly and that’s how you end up adapting the phrase “karma never punishes some people).
Tarnishing their name will only make you look desperate and cheap.I know that’s very tempting to do but don’t forget people change versions of your stories behind closed doors, and that’s where you will earn the title desperate ,though I’m not saying you should be scared of what people say about you or the labels they give you all I’m saying is talk about it with your therapist or your support system
Move on
Easier said than done.
Use your experience as a lesson to never fall on the same trap.
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